Jun 85 min read

Most Common Wedding Day Regrets

Your wedding day is one of the most significant and memorable days of your life, filled with love, joy, and celebration. However, amidst the excitement and planning, it's easy to overlook certain aspects that might lead to regrets later on. While it's impossible to have a perfect wedding, learning from the experiences of others can help you avoid some common pitfalls. In this blog, I'll explore the most frequent wedding day regrets and offer practical tips to ensure your big day is as smooth and enjoyable as possible. From hiring the right professionals to savoring the special moments, I've got you covered.

Not Hiring a Professional Photographer

Weddings are magical, once-in-a-lifetime events, and having professional photos to look back on is priceless. Many couples regret skimping on photography, thinking they can rely on friends or family members. While Uncle Joe’s new camera might seem impressive, professional photographers have the experience and eye for capturing those perfect moments – the tear in your partner’s eye during vows, the laughter during toasts, and those spontaneous, candid moments that make your day unique. Don’t settle for blurry or poorly lit photos; invest in a professional who will ensure your memories are beautifully preserved. Download my Little Black Book of Wedding Suppliers to help you find your perfect photographer.

Skipping the Videographer

Photos are fantastic, but there’s something incredibly special about having a video of your wedding day. Hearing your vows again, seeing the first dance in motion, and reliving the speeches can bring back emotions in a way photos alone can’t. Many couples regret not hiring a videographer, thinking it’s an unnecessary expense. However, years down the line, having a video to watch can become one of your most cherished keepsakes. Imagine sharing that with your children or watching it on anniversaries! My favourite videographer for the North East is Aaron from Just Press Play Films.

Wedding Ceremony Decor at Blackton Grange Estate

Not Having a Plan for Bad Weather

Mother Nature doesn’t always cooperate, and many couples regret not having a solid backup plan for inclement weather. If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, make sure you have a contingency plan – whether it’s renting a tent, booking an indoor venue as a backup, or having umbrellas, wellies and heaters on standby. Don’t let a sudden rain shower dampen your spirits. With a little preparation, you can still have a beautiful day, rain or shine.

Bride in wellies for a farm wedding at Blackton Grange Estate

Trying to Please Everyone

Weddings are a celebration of your love, and it’s important to remember that it’s your day. Many couples regret trying too hard to accommodate everyone else’s preferences . While it’s considerate to take others’ feelings into account, don’t lose sight of what makes you and your partner happy. Focus on creating a day that reflects your personalities and love story, and your guests will appreciate the authenticity and joy.

Overlooking the Importance of a Wedding Coordinator

Even if you’ve planned everything down to the last detail, the on-the-day coordination can be overwhelming. Many couples regret not hiring a wedding coordinator to manage the timeline, handle any issues that arise, and ensure everything runs smoothly. A coordinator can be a lifesaver, allowing you to relax and enjoy your day without worrying about logistics. It’s worth the investment to have someone else manage the details so you can focus on celebrating your love. Contact my favourites over at Amelia Ray Events to see how they can help

Neglecting to Spend Time with Each Other

Amidst the excitement and busyness of the day, it’s surprisingly easy to spend little time with your new spouse. Many couples regret not carving out moments to be together during their wedding. Make a plan to steal away for a few minutes here and there – during cocktail hour, between dances, or even just a simple change on your table layout, giving yourselves a sweetheart headtable gives you that space and time to reconnect after the ceremony. These moments will help you connect and remember the reason behind the celebration.

Head table decor for wedding at Blackton Grange Estate

Forgetting to Eat and Stay Hydrated

With so much happening, it’s common for couples to forget to eat and drink throughout the day. You don’t want to be running on empty or feel faint during your own reception. Arrange for someone to bring you snacks while getting ready and have a plan to enjoy your meal at the reception. Drinking plenty of water is also crucial, especially if you’re enjoying a few celebratory drinks. Staying nourished and hydrated will help you feel your best and enjoy every moment.

Wedding couple at Blackton Grange Estate

Not Greeting All the Guests

It can be overwhelming to greet every single guest at your wedding, but many couples regret not making the effort. Your guests have come to celebrate with you, some from far away, and taking a moment to thank them personally can make them feel appreciated. While it might be impossible to have a long conversation with everyone, a quick hello and a heartfelt thank you can go a long way. Consider a receiving line, or make it a point to visit each table during the reception.

Spending Too Much Time Taking Photos

Capturing beautiful photos is important, but spending too much time on them can cut into your enjoyment of the day. Many couples regret missing out on moments with their guests because they were busy posing for pictures. Try to find a balance – schedule a dedicated time for photos but also ensure you’re present for the celebration. Trust your photographer to capture candid shots throughout the event, so you don’t feel like you’re stuck in front of the camera all day.

Wedding arch hire at Blackton Grange Estate

Starting the Day Too Early

In an effort to fit everything in, some couples start their wedding day at the crack of dawn. This can lead to fatigue and burnout before the party even starts. Many couples regret not giving themselves a little more time to rest and relax in the morning. Consider a realistic timeline that allows for a leisurely start to the day. Enjoy a relaxed breakfast, take your time getting ready, and savor those pre-wedding moments without feeling rushed. If you have an early ceremony, sometimes this can't be helped, so if you're still in the early planning stages and haven't chosen a time for your ceremony yet, consider a later time in the day rather than the morning.

Bride getting ready at Blackton Grange Estate

Inviting Guests Out of Obligation

Feeling pressured to invite certain people can lead to a guest list that’s larger and less personal than you’d like. Many couples regret inviting guests out of obligation rather than desire. Remember, your wedding should be a celebration with those who truly matter to you. It’s okay to politely decline extending invitations to distant relatives or acquaintances you’re not close with. Focus on surrounding yourselves with people who bring joy and support to your special day.

Not Spending Time in the Moment

Your wedding day will pass in a blur, and it’s easy to get caught up in the schedule and logistics. Many couples regret not taking a few moments to simply be present and soak in the experience. Make a conscious effort to pause, look around, and savor the moments – whether it’s during the ceremony, while dancing, or even just sitting together for a quiet minute. These mindful pauses can help you truly appreciate the day and create lasting memories.

Not Prioritising What Matters Most

In the hustle and bustle of wedding planning, it’s easy to get caught up in the details and lose sight of what really matters. Many couples regret spending too much time stressing over minor things that won’t be remembered in the long run. Focus on the aspects that are most important to you – whether it’s the ceremony, the music, the food, or simply being surrounded by loved ones. Keep the big picture in mind and don’t sweat the small stuff.